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  • It depends on why you’re in the games and what is going on with your life.

    It can be an escape

    It can be a break

    It can be an outlet

    It can just be for fun

    It can be an exercise for the brain

    But if it’s not providing any of that maybe that’s not what you need right now. It can also be a thing you need the escape/break from.

    It’s just a thing for spending time without productivity so walking away from it isn’t a big drama. It’s going to be there later when you want it.

    There’s other things that can provide a break or be fun for a while until you find the joy of the game again.








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    I’ve told 3 coworkers already that I don’t talk to them

    Ok so now you’re adding more information here. 3 people. this sounds less about just having some standards and more of a pattern emerging here.

    What you are describing is more in line with how an APD thinks and behaves and not just a mere introvert trait.

    The introversion trait isn’t attached to aversion. It’s based on personal need. No one trait needs to be rude and throw all politeness out the window. That’s bigger than a mere trait. People with introvert trait (without comorbidity) can actually talk to people and have a social ability even at work and they do not shy away from socializing full stop. They take periodic breaks based on need.

    they feel offended

    Again: that’s predictive.

    Something doesn’t compute here. Unless you’ve misplaced yourself into a customer based industry and you’re just not a people person: Having a mere trait doesn’t end up with a collection of people aggressive at work. Nor would it be so attached to aversion and delivering hostile narrative on what other people must be thinking.

    There is a proper way to break a conversation without having to be abrupt about not wanting to talk. Simply having a trait doesn’t rule over basic common decency.

    You sound like you have something else going on aside from just the introvert trait.





  • First off, I’m am not seeing really great communication skills coming from your end in your story here.

    he keeps insinuating there is something wrong with me just because I don’t ask him about his private life

    This is predicting. Or do you actually know he thinks this? The use of ‘insinuating’ sounds like you’re filling in a lot of blank space with your own narrative. Unless he came out and actually said this, private information isn’t necessarily an unspoken agreed upon trade. And if it was that would be a fault on his side.

    And Just to get it out of the way: Introvert isn’t where you don’t want to socialize. It’s just a personality trait in how you recharge with or without socializing. Typical introvert would not avoid socializing altogether. They’d socialize and then excuse themselves for a time being. This is of course with healthy preferences of who to socialize with like any average person could have and that is perfectly fine but that isn’t a trait of what makes a person introvert or extrovert. That’s just having standards.

    Either way, this just sounds like you have made a choice that this person isn’t for you and you have some unspoken boundaries and expect someone to know your boundaries without telling them. Even if you think you are being clear with social queues this might be a case of miscommunication of what a social queue is for you and what he reads communication(possible) . But I wouldn’t leave that to assumption.

    People aren’t mind readers so of it is bothering you this much you could tell him like several others are suggesting.

    after that if he doesn’t let up, see HR as that would be harassment at that point.