This. I shut off all notifications from nearly all of my apps. Primary text app, phone app, and just a couple of others. I may temporarily allow them for a special purpose, but once that’s over they all get silenced and I get to them when I get to them. I hate badge notifications, too. So, those are off for EVERYTHING. Grad school cemented that aversion.
We’re going to need an underground railroad for women in this situation. Otherwise, they are going to start executing women who have killed in the name of self-defense.