I don’t think the main message is not approaching women anywhere. I think the main message is actually making friends before making a move. Not just asking someone out.

I’ve had 2 relationships and am in a happt marriage going on 10 years, and each one started by being friendly and sharing interests, because then it’s natural to go do something together sometime.

Don’t overcomplicate it, just be friendly and make it natural to spend time together.

So when does the heritage end? As I said, they don’t have much Irish anymore

I understand the cultural grouping that happens when large migrant communities form. What I don’t understand is why Americans portray themselves as Dutch when coming to the Netherlands. Their customs, language, culture, and nationality are different. They’re not Dutch whatsoever.

Use it to identify yourselves within the USA, that makes sense. Don’t use it to claim being part of a culture that you know nothing about.

I understand the different cultural groups, though factually it’s incorrect. The main issue is Americans coming to their respective country of descent, and portraying themselves as, for example, Dutch. They’re not Dutch whatsoever, their language, customs, culture, and nationality are different. It’s incorrect and frankly pathetic.

I believe the USA would be better off if people would just drop the grouping and start being Americans.

Speaking a heritage language or celebrating occasional holidays doesn’t justify claiming a nationality you don’t possess.

Most “hyphenated Americans” cherry-pick pleasant cultural elements while remaining disconnected from the contemporary realities of those countries. The vast majority don’t speak their ancestral languages or meaningfully participate in authentic cultural practices.

There’s a significant difference between recent immigrants maintaining strong cultural ties and 4th/5th generation Americans with minimal connection claiming the same identity. Americans also inconsistently apply this logic, often identifying with only one ancestral line while ignoring others.

When “Irish-Americans” visit Ireland, locals don’t recognize them as Irish in any meaningful sense—revealing the fundamental disconnect between claiming an identity and being accepted as authentic by actual members of that culture.

These hyphenated identities ultimately function as American cultural constructs rather than genuine connections to the nations they reference.

Your comparison between “European vs Dutch” and “American vs Irish-American” is fundamentally flawed.

Nationality vs ancestry are different concepts. Dutch is my current nationality, defined by citizenship, language, culture, and shared social experience. Being “Dutch-Norwegian” would mean I hold dual citizenship or were raised in both cultural contexts simultaneously. Most Americans claiming to be “Irish-American” have no citizenship, language fluency, or authentic cultural immersion in Ireland.

The cultural disconnect is stark. What Americans call “Italian-American culture” has diverged dramatically from actual Italian culture over generations. It’s become a distinctly American phenomenon with superficial cultural markers rather than authentic representation. When Irish-Americans visit Ireland, locals often view them as simply American tourists because the cultural gap is so evident.

With each generation, the cultural connection weakens substantially. By the third or fourth generation, what remains is often reduced to stereotypical elements like celebrating St. Patrick’s Day or eating pasta on Sundays. This selective cultural picking isn’t equivalent to genuine cultural identity.

European identity framework differs fundamentally. In Europe, identity is primarily based on where you were born and raised, your language, and your lived experience – not distant ancestry.

Many Americans who claim hyphenated identities have minimal knowledge of their ancestral country’s modern culture, politics, or social realities. They cling to outdated or stereotypical notions that no longer reflect the actual country.

Comparing a continental identity (European) to a national one (Dutch) is not the same as comparing a national identity (American) to a hyphenated ancestral one (Irish-American). The Netherlands exists within Europe; “Irish-American” does not represent a legitimate political or cultural subset of America in the same way.

I always find this kind of silly. You were born and raised in the USA, so you’re American, whether you like it or not. There’s people saying they’re Irish American despite 3 generations having passed, so when does it end? Am I Dutch-Norwegian because my great grandmother was Norwegian and came to The Netherlands?

No, I’m Dutch, I was born and raised here without influence of the Norwegian culture.

In my experience, copilot is one of the weakest tools right now. I want to like it, as I have a license at my job, but it’s really hit or miss. Perplexity hasn’t steered me wrong yet!

I’ve had good experiences with perplexity as an AI tool that hallucinates a lot less. It’s basically a search engine that them feeds the information into a model for interpretation, works pretty well!

Do elaborate, it’s it something that would benefit all men?

This is another level, thanks for sharing!

Agreed! A phased approach is what we’re looking at, moving critical processes first and working from there.

The whole stack is the issue. E-mail, VM’s, office 365, cloud management, powerBI, copilot, it’s one beautiful ecosystem. There is simply no viable alternative at the moment. It will need to be created.

Of course one can always replace office 365 with libreoffice, but after that it gets more difficult.

I was in a meeting today with a few people where we were discussing what direction we want a part of a European government to go in for tech. Getting rid of USA companies and on-boarding open-source solutions. The main issue, as usual, are the users. They’re so used to the M365 suite they won’t accept anything else.

Apart from the fact that most open-source solutions don’t cover the stack Microsoft delivers, IaaS, PaaS, and SaaS.

We need more guidance from the EU to start producing viable alternatives.