For those out of the loop, WomensStuff has a women-only rule, where men are respectfully asked to not reply to posts.

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    13 days ago

    Yeah, I concur. When I learned I wasn’t allowed to speak there, I simply blocked it and moved on. They can have whatever rules they want. No one is obligated to be there.

    On the flip side, I can see it being irksome to click a post and have your comment be deleted because you didn’t notice that community it was or didn’t read every rule for every community.

    I’ll wager the vast majority of users don’t read community rules until they run afoul of one. Personally, I just shrug it off and move on, it’s not like whining about it is going to make an entire community change it’s rules to accommodate you.

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      13 days ago

      I feel based on the name of the community, some rules would be obvious. But a “absolutely nothing from you, male scum” isn’t obvious.

      I posted one there yesterday or this morning, haven’t checked on it, but it’s probably deleted now. No harm no foul. It wasn’t meant to break a rule, and they can do what they want. But I would’ve never even known if not for this post.

      But I will be blocking the sub now. Both because I’m apparently not welcome, and because I will probably accidentally do it again otherwise.

      Edit: It wasn’t that sub after checking. Phew. One less toxic place to be.

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        “male scum” oof. Maybe cool it a little with the self-victimization, friend.

        If you genuinely don’t understand why it’s helpful to have both kinds of spaces and not something to get mad about, I’m happy to explain. But some good-faith effort on your part is required.

      • Taleya@aussie.zone
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        12 days ago

        “Women only…trans women are women, and gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (eg non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a woman’s community is a good fit for them”

        Literally does not say “male scum”, that’s something you’ve invented entirely. Wonder why that’s your response.

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        13 days ago

        I feel based on the name of the community, some rules would be obvious. But a “absolutely nothing from you, male scum” isn’t obvious.

        Rules…

        Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.

        I understand, you’re a man, you have an opinion, and being told ‘no’ just won’t cut it, will it?

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          12 days ago

          Did you miss the first 9 words you quoted or something? Seems like you’re misrepresenting what was said in quite a profound way.

          OP claims it’s not obvious from the title; you claim it’s obvious from the rules; Both of these statements can be true at the same time.

          Also, now that they’re aware, they’ve blocked the community to prevent any engagement… Can you explain how that translates to them not accepting the situation?

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      13 days ago

      Eh, irkers can sit down. It’s long been a thing about paying attention to community rules before posting, and if you don’t and violate them, you don’t get to whinge.

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        12 days ago

        To be fair the vast, vast majority of the rules are simply common sense stuff. If you are not an asshole, you can avoid reading community rules and in 99% of case you won’t violate any.