Why do you have to address people? I’ve gone years without knowing someone’s name, I’m really bad at names. And then you get to the weird social situations
I was close enough with my friends family in high school that I used to hang out with them years even after he moved away, at least a few times a month for almost a decade.
I have no idea how to address them. Do I say Mr/Mrs X? Do I call them by their first name? Do I call them Aunt and Uncle in another language like what is normal in their culture?
I have no idea. So I just didn’t. For years. Occasionally it’s awkward, like at a party when it’s loud, but not so loud you’d need to tap them… So I’d either wander around and repeat the approach, start talking to someone near them (sometimes even refer to them via relationship with the person I’m speaking to to get their attention), or pretend like I just remembered something so I could make a noise without it being psychotic.
I think I brought it up with my friend and his sister a couple years in, and they thought it was hilarious, but said any of those options would be fine… Which I did not find helpful.
But again, you’d be shocked how easy it is to avoid it. Compared to that, you can just say “excuse me” or “sorry to disturb you” or whatever… Humans are really, really good at noticing when someone is talking to them
I’m absolutely in the same boat. Even when I absolutely know someone’s name, I almost never use it. I think it’s odd that most people I work with just shout my name at me when I walk in the door.
Right? The only situation I enjoy hearing my name is in an emotionally charged interaction. Even then it’s only going to give me fuzzy feelings when a romantic partner says it… In all other contexts I’m at best going to think it was appropriate
My name gets my attention in a very visceral way, don’t demand even more of my attention while we’re talking if you’re not about to say something important
what is the unholy hell is Mx, and how are you supposed to pronounce it?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mx_(title)
Gender-neutral title. Most commonly I think it’s like “Mix”.
One of my teachers in high school used it, and that’s how they said it
Interesting, thanks! :3
“You there”
Stop with all that… Shouting
Mason
When you don’t have pronouns
Excuse me, …
I only break out the sir/madam/etc for customers, and you bet if I wasn’t sure I wouldn’t try to guess. It’ll be you until I’m told different.
