Founder of European Graphic Novels+, Aug '23 on Lemm.ee. With super-gratitude towards some ‘Blazing & Rimming’ Dudes for enabling our move, in which now we can abide. :D

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  • So far this is the closest comment to my thoughts:

    • With age also brings wisdom and experience, which theoretically lets you skip much of the bumps, hurdles and difficulties that you probably fell prey to as a younger person.
    • It also brings a better ability to understand the latest science in terms of healthy living, which would tend to suggest that you exercise on a regular basis, eat certain diets, and take better care of yourself in various ways.
    • You have your years of prior life to theoretically build social networks, contacts, and support groups, and form relationships with people who best fit your needs and personality.
    • You have those years to better understand your weak spots, blind spots, get counseling, and work on improving many different skills and areas of your life.
    • Just about everyone develops health issues of one sort or another, and some of them take real persistence to suss out. So you also have those years of doctors and specialists visits to get them properly treated, alongside other tools such as genetic testing, etc.

    @zerozaku@lemmy.world


  • Fair enough, and I think I’m mostly in agreement with you.

    I think people almost always mean well - and of course those public instances were needed to get things off the ground but I’m going to say that I’d rather see that they eventually die off as smaller servers become easier to run and people actually have personal connections with whoever runs the server they are using (ideally themselves)

    I’ve seen it speculated (or opined) that this tends to be where things are headed, based on the state of coming tech, ease of use, and current models. Something like that, anyway.



  • “Savior complex” seems way over the top when talking about what you’re describing, which to me is a perfectly normal, healthy reaction for instance-runners and /c-runners.

    While true that such thoughts must still bow to reality, in many cases these instance-runners really are doing an incredible, multi-faceted job, and it’s true to at least some extent that they deserve to be thanked in various ways.

    Meanwhile, my former instance (Lemm.ee, the 3rd largest at the time) went down essentially due to too many headaches created by asshole users. It’s a real problem everywhere, and I think the average user here does owe some thanks for projects like this which are trying to serve their interests and not monetise them. In which threads like this are perfectly useful & appropriate IMO.



  • Oh god, yeah.
    One of the worst things ever was being ultimately convinced by my friends & family that I was ‘just a bit lazy and just a bit crazy’ and all that… convinced to redouble my efforts to ‘break on through to the other side.’ Which I sincerely tried, with every bit of my being.

    Holy hell, and I would sometimes subsequently slip in to *severe*-mode for a while, which was absolute terrifying. Like, I could barely even make my way to the bathroom to attend to my duties, and all that.

    So I learned that, sadly, I could never trust other people to actually comprehend what I was going through. That I was all alone, completely, and somehow I would have to work things out and survive, with egg on my face over-and-over again.

    @Björn Tantau@swg-empire.de