… honestly, I don’t think anyone has ever explicitly said to me (especially growing up) to not use slurs - you just don’t use them bcs they obviously harm people, basic empathy & stuff (if the greed of just living in a better society isn’t enough).
… but there sure have been a fucktone of folk telling me not to use some arbitrary “bad words” they deemed vulgar. No logical reason given, just random societal oppression.
I had an aunt Julia growing up and my parents sat me down when I was four or five and they heard me calling her aunt Ju to explain that “Jew” wasn’t inherently a slur, but it could be offensive to people if I just shouted it randomly after my aunt. Based on that, I suspect they would have talked to me about slurs if it had come up, but I never used them.
I did once talk to my grandmother at around age eleven about seeing a huge Afro and she asked if I meant the person or the hairstyle. I complained to my mom about her being racist and she set me straight. Both of my my grandparents taught at colleges in the greater Boston area around the time they were integrated and my grandmother insisted on renting a room in their house out to black students who couldn’t get housing otherwise (for only the cost of meals) throughout my mom’s whole childhood and ended friendships with people who had a problem with it. She was just from another time and didn’t consider “Afro” to be an offensive term, probably because she was involved in civil rights through the seventies, when that was used by lots of black groups as a term of empowerment
They’re the no-no word because someone used them to hurt someone else.
I don’t know what “removed” means, I assume it’s black in spanish or something, it doesn’t make sense on it’s own.
It’s just a word that people used to hurt other people, so we can’t use them.
Literally, “we can’t have nice things” applied to word, although, whatever that word means, I guess we have other words that mean black so, ok, whatever, we still have plenty of other 6 letter words so “meh”.
Would be nice if people stopped being such shitheads and using group dominance to subjugate other groups.
I think instead of attacking words, we should attack the mechanic behind them ?
If the slur comes out it’s already too late, the dominance play has already infected them.
It has to be defused before they even say it. Find why people are being so shit, it’s not just a reaction, it’s not the word itself making them do it.
There a reason why they become nasty slur-spewing goblins.
Why isn’t this solved already ?
Why does it persist ?
Do the people who proclaim to be doing something about it gain something for it persisting so it never get actually solved ?
I mean, even as I figure out what they’re for and how they’re being used, surely this has been going on for centuries if not millennia.
So why is that shit still even around ?
You’d think we’d have it figured out by now, dealt with and ready when the next duckface tries that crap.
But I guess not…
… honestly, I don’t think anyone has ever explicitly said to me (especially growing up) to not use slurs - you just don’t use them bcs they obviously harm people, basic empathy & stuff (if the greed of just living in a better society isn’t enough).
… but there sure have been a fucktone of folk telling me not to use some arbitrary “bad words” they deemed vulgar. No logical reason given, just random societal oppression.
I had an aunt Julia growing up and my parents sat me down when I was four or five and they heard me calling her aunt Ju to explain that “Jew” wasn’t inherently a slur, but it could be offensive to people if I just shouted it randomly after my aunt. Based on that, I suspect they would have talked to me about slurs if it had come up, but I never used them.
I did once talk to my grandmother at around age eleven about seeing a huge Afro and she asked if I meant the person or the hairstyle. I complained to my mom about her being racist and she set me straight. Both of my my grandparents taught at colleges in the greater Boston area around the time they were integrated and my grandmother insisted on renting a room in their house out to black students who couldn’t get housing otherwise (for only the cost of meals) throughout my mom’s whole childhood and ended friendships with people who had a problem with it. She was just from another time and didn’t consider “Afro” to be an offensive term, probably because she was involved in civil rights through the seventies, when that was used by lots of black groups as a term of empowerment
Thx for sharing, that was a lovely story/slice of life.
They’re the no-no word because someone used them to hurt someone else.
I don’t know what “removed” means, I assume it’s black in spanish or something, it doesn’t make sense on it’s own.
It’s just a word that people used to hurt other people, so we can’t use them.
Literally, “we can’t have nice things” applied to word, although, whatever that word means, I guess we have other words that mean black so, ok, whatever, we still have plenty of other 6 letter words so “meh”.
Would be nice if people stopped being such shitheads and using group dominance to subjugate other groups.
I think instead of attacking words, we should attack the mechanic behind them ? If the slur comes out it’s already too late, the dominance play has already infected them.
It has to be defused before they even say it. Find why people are being so shit, it’s not just a reaction, it’s not the word itself making them do it.
There a reason why they become nasty slur-spewing goblins.
Sure, and it’s not like there arent any efforts towards that.
But since hate words do exist we don’t use them in order to not empower further the mechanics/shitheads that do use/promote them.
Why isn’t this solved already ?
Why does it persist ?
Do the people who proclaim to be doing something about it gain something for it persisting so it never get actually solved ?
I mean, even as I figure out what they’re for and how they’re being used, surely this has been going on for centuries if not millennia.
So why is that shit still even around ?
You’d think we’d have it figured out by now, dealt with and ready when the next duckface tries that crap.
But I guess not…