• KnoLord@lemmy.zip
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    2 days ago

    From what I could witness, most likely the “first abuser” is most likely a close family member, either the (step-)father or some uncle or grandfather - people who themselves believe in such values they call “traditional”.

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      1 day ago

      Yeah, but also (step-)mother or some aunt or grandmother, maybe even girlfriend. Not only men are pushing these “traditional” values.

      • Tollana1234567@lemmy.today
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        14 hours ago

        maybe in a ultra conservative household. but more than not its the man of the house that influences the male children more.

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          12 hours ago

          In my life, I made a very different experience.

          And I believe:

          Sexist beliefs, traditions and norms are not only held up by men and ultra conservative women. We all do it together and as long as we act that we don’t do it as a collective, we will continue to fail young man and women and turn more people into toxic sexist idiots.

      • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        1 day ago

        This is true, but if even just one family member protected them from this harmful rhetoric, it saves hope for the kid.

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      1 day ago

      Father’s need to support their sons, show empathy, and actually engage with their children in a meaningful way. Hug your fucking kids!

      Elephant Graveyard said it first.