My mom once got so upset at me and my brothers not cleaning our rooms, that she spent the school day taking all of our toys, putting them in trash bags, and leaving them in the back yard.
Parents - don’t do that. It’s traumatizing. I still have massive issues with people touching my things, and I’m in my 30s.
It also did nothing to help me clean my room, as you can’t punish someone out of having ADHD. Specific guidance could’ve helped me, as I was never taught how to organize things. Instead, I was expected to just figure it out somehow and got in trouble for failing to do so.
This is why i put away the husbands socks and underpants, arranged in a FIFO system but still arranged so he can see and pick out a specific pair he’s vibing for and not wear the same pair over and over because they’re top of the pile and wear them out.
I just want to say that, not only does this resonate with me, but it’s one of those things that you’ll never un-think or un-see. I have a lot to reflect on, as this simple insight will help me tremendously. Thanks.
My mum didn’t do anything as bad as that, but your comment made me reflect and realise that there weren’t really any instances I can recall of my mum sitting down to help me tidy up my room. I’d just end up shoving everything under my bed when it came time for the weekly check for our pocket money and then doing a massive organise every few months or so (but it would never stay tidy for long.
What’s especially interesting was that I was quite enthusiastic about tidying and cleaning other parts of the house; we could do extra chores for extra pocket money. I wonder whether my attitude towards cleaning the bathroom and the kitchen was different to my room because I had to be shown how to do these tasks, as opposed to being left to my own devices with my bedroom
My mom once got so upset at me and my brothers not cleaning our rooms, that she spent the school day taking all of our toys, putting them in trash bags, and leaving them in the back yard.
Parents - don’t do that. It’s traumatizing. I still have massive issues with people touching my things, and I’m in my 30s.
It also did nothing to help me clean my room, as you can’t punish someone out of having ADHD. Specific guidance could’ve helped me, as I was never taught how to organize things. Instead, I was expected to just figure it out somehow and got in trouble for failing to do so.
This is why i put away the husbands socks and underpants, arranged in a FIFO system but still arranged so he can see and pick out a specific pair he’s vibing for and not wear the same pair over and over because they’re top of the pile and wear them out.
Tshirts and pants are folded, but his business.
I just want to say that, not only does this resonate with me, but it’s one of those things that you’ll never un-think or un-see. I have a lot to reflect on, as this simple insight will help me tremendously. Thanks.
My mum didn’t do anything as bad as that, but your comment made me reflect and realise that there weren’t really any instances I can recall of my mum sitting down to help me tidy up my room. I’d just end up shoving everything under my bed when it came time for the weekly check for our pocket money and then doing a massive organise every few months or so (but it would never stay tidy for long.
What’s especially interesting was that I was quite enthusiastic about tidying and cleaning other parts of the house; we could do extra chores for extra pocket money. I wonder whether my attitude towards cleaning the bathroom and the kitchen was different to my room because I had to be shown how to do these tasks, as opposed to being left to my own devices with my bedroom