• PugJesus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    19·
    2 个月前

    They’re capable of feeling shame, just not for what you or I feel shame for.

    The trick is to find out what hurts them.

    • reiterationstation@lemm.eeEnglish
      10·
      2 个月前

      You’ve got to make them an outcast to their in group.

      So stupid shit like pointing out their hands are nicely manicured (if they are a man) that’s why they wear lifts and shoes too large for their feet.

      Or for women you call them a man. That’s why they do it to every woman they hate.

      Just observe them. They lay their cards right on the table.

      • PugJesus@lemmy.worldEnglish
        10·
        2 个月前

        The problem, of course, lies in striking the balance between speaking to them in their own terms, and reinforcing the values that many of their terms reflect.