• Dharma Curious (he/him)@slrpnk.net
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    9 个月前

    Years and years ago, I was really active on a forum, and one of the members did this world trip, couch surfing with different members of the forum and seeing the world. She and I weren’t good friends. In fact, she irritated me a bit, nothing in particular, just… Didn’t vibe. At all. But a leg of her trip was taking through my state, and she needed a place to crash, so I said fuck it, sure.

    She stayed with her best friend from the forum in Boston, and it was a complete bust. They didn’t get along, Boston friend found her irritating, grating, and overwhelmingly boring.

    Then she got to my place, and I made a new best friend. We got along so well she stayed an extra 2 days, and we had a fucking blast.

    Irl/online can be a major difference, one from the other

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      9 个月前

      Very true. I had someone I was friends with IRL who I would talk about my online roleplay community with. I asked if she was interested in joining and she said sure. She was… insufferable. Did not get along with anyone else. I found her online presence incredibly grating. It was crazy, it was a completely different person.

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        9 个月前

        I’ve got a good friend who played D&D with us a couple times and found out real quick that not all friend groups are okay with overlapping. It was awful

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        My writing words and my speaking words are very different. Writing is much better. All but one of my girlfriends over the last 20 years were chatted up online/email/sms first. IRL, they’d probably have been put off by my verbal hesitation, and my glancing at their knockers ever 10 seconds (a habit I find it impossible to break without intense concentration on not doing it)

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      I was once really excited to meet a forum friend on whom I’d been crushing on a little as we were going to attend the same event, and she brought along a forum newbie who lived near her and who I didn’t really know all that well.

      It turned out my crush and I had just platonically friendly vibes in person, but her friend and I had an immediate major connection and ended up dating seriously for a year.