Wow, the comments went off the rails here.
I don’t usually do this, but I’m locking this post. Too much fighting.
Damn that’s troublesome, terrible, unbelievable, where can i avoid this, an address would help
Tatoo parlor
The only negative I see on here is “history of cheating.”
I could also see how “Girl Boss” can be negative, but not in a way he means it. He just means women who believe in working outside the home.
Edit: ok, smoking too - if we are talking cigarettes or meth. Smoke all the weed you want.
Depending on how “refuses to cook” comes across, that’s a negative in my book. I won’t want to cook every meal, I’d burn out. It’s a requirement that they are at least willing to do it sometimes. (I like cooking, but some days are just overly draining and I need help)
Cooking because it’s your “traditional role as a woman:” no
Cooking because it’s fun and the Food Network made you overconfident: yes
“women belong in the kitchen”? WRONG
We’re cooking 5kg of Lasagna for tonight’s gathering and we need all hands on deck
I love being Italian sometimes
That’s just a normal pan size amount of lasagna? 30x20 or 13x9 in freeedom units. Are people wasting time making small pan sizes? Lasagna is amazing leftovers.
I make the 13x9 FU pan, but I only cook for myself.
Ouch, Friday I am going to try something because seriouseats made it seem reasonable, and I’m feeling called out
I dated a rich girl for a while who didnt cook, none of her family could. They had a part time maid who would cook for them a bit but mostly ate out and brought home extra meals. Like literally, every time they went out they’d order a couple extra meals to go.
At one point the mom was sad she couldnt get shrimp scampi anywhere in town. So I cooked dinner for them, because NBD. They thought it was magic, doubly so because im a guy. I litterally had to remove the plastic wrapping off the inside of the oven door to make garlic bread, and all the pots and pans still had stickers in the bottom.
At one pojnt I also had to teach my 38 year old GF how to operate a washer and dryer.
Oh they definitely mean cook for THEM, lol.
No female friends isn’t really negative but is never positive, to be fair.
“History of leaving me for a safer and more loving relationship.”
“History of cheating” doesn’t necessarily mean “cheater.” To those on a trajectory to make a mistake, far better lessons come from those who made mistakes and can explain how to avoid them than those who can only say, “don’t make mistakes.” I’m sure there’s a better way to say this than the clumsy words I’ve chosen.
Viewing “uses family court” as a negative is such a self report for that guy lol. ‘I can’t believe my ex is making legally binding agreements that I can’t unilaterally change!’ energy
Yeah, he told on himself. I’m surprised he didn’t include “calls 911 to report domestic violence.”
5 is a high body count??? What a bunch of enormous fucking losers lmao
I’m Asexual and mine is higher than 5.
Dude. Me too. Not saying some of those were from feeling pressured when I was younger , but a handful was from genuine (tho fleeting) interest.
My logic is, I rarely (very rarely) feel that way so when I do and there isn’t any obvious reason why I shouldn’t (i.e they are in a relationship, or they are a co worker ) I go for it.
My perspective: . Life is only once. Enjoy yourself (or someone else) when you can.
Serious question out of curiosity, is it like a mental arousal only thing, or occasional sexual arousal thing? If I’m out of bounds I’m sorry. If you prefer not to answer or if this makes you uncomfortable, please don’t bother answering.
Sexuality is a complex thing for anyone. Regardless of whatever identity they use for themselves.
I have actually a lot of friends who are asexual-ish. Once you are out with yours, you find that other people are more open with you about this.
For some people they still want a romantic partner but have little to no interest in sexual acts with others.
For others , like myself, I have no interest in romantic partners. And very little to no interest in sexual acts with others.
Some asexuals have normal or even high libido but don’t feel that emotion directed towards others. I would describe this as like wanting a snack but you open the fridge and there isn’t anything in there you want.
Some have very low to no libido.
Some people who are very picky about partners and take a long time to feel comfortable, to be sexual, also sometimes call themselves asexuals.
I’m not here to gatekeep but that really does sound like average sexual identity for most people. But if someone wants to use it for that, it’s their choice.
There are like 10 sub terms for asexuals but I personally find that superfluous. Everyone is different. I don’t need a special label. If I want to explain myself, I will.
Labels are limiting. And they sometimes make someone else think they get your whole deal when they don’t.
I would describe this as like wanting a snack but you open the fridge and there isn’t anything in there you want.
That perfectly illustrated my feelings.
I’m normally a pretty horny guy, but I feel like I never want to touch myself again after seeing this.
I appreciate the response. Ty.
I know, right? That’s only barely cracking into serial killer territory. How am I supposed to respect a woman if she’s not an accomplished and highly experienced assassin?
Right? Fuckin amateur hour over here
5 is a high body count only if you’re a woman. If you’re a man it’s basically nothing and you should aim for at least 100 body count.
OK, “uses family court” killed me.
These fucking wannabe dictators…
All of this translates down to “she doesn’t act like a combination mother/servant/virgin/nymphomaniac specifically for me and only me without ever complaining or asking for anything”
What a godamned cry baby
I got, “I am insecure in my masculinity and I need a subservient creature that I will not respect to feel powerful”
“Sir, I’m going to need you to introduce me to some of those women you claim to know. Get your keys, we’re leaving right now.”
Yeah the only women this guy knows live in his head
I know you’re right, but must you crush my hopes and dreams like that?
You aren’t Adam Savage. You do not have the ability to substitute your own reality.
Thank you for the encouragement! Ah, it’s been a long time since anybody gave me a compliment like that.
Wait. You said “aren’t” and “do not”.
Oh. What a terrible day to possess reading comprehension :(
“Toxic relationship with father” and “dislikes God / Jesus”.
Gee, I wonder why this combination would appear anywhere.
Lol, high body count is 5? I’m a social awkward manlet and mines higher than that.
It’s just this cartoon a century later:
This guy dreams of the times where.women were barefoot and pregnant, basically trained to be slaves to men.
Obviously, this loser sees his only chance of female companionship in someone submissive, as he seems incapable of a real partnership.
lol of course this is the kind of misogynistic dork that hides behind a picture of Ryan Gosling online.
To be fair, a history of cheating in inexcusable.
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No, having a literal history of cheating is just inexcusable, regardless of gender. Break up if it’s a shitty relationship, or just don’t get in a monogamous relationship in the first place. It’s 2026, open relationships are a thing, or you can be single and fuck as many people as you want, etc. It’s the lying and doing it behind your trusting partner’s back that’s the problem, not the polygamy.
And if you want an open relationship and your potential future partner doesn’t… Well maybe find someone who shares your views instead of cheating on someone who doesn’t?
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Sounds like what someone who doesn’t respect the boundaries of a relationship would say.
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🤣🤣🤣
Have a great day cheater!
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Honestly. Can’t get it up.
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No
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red flags, liberal, girlboss.
not a red flag but, how does she has multiple baby daddies+family court while also not being a mother?
That line continues ‘Not Mother / Wife Material’ which means he thinks women should care for him as though he were a child.
To be fair though he is a child, I just think he should be put out to pasture or something. Don’t worry little Timmy, hes playing on the farm with old yeller.
That’s the thing, half of these are red flag that the poster is a sexist dude bro who needs to stfu.
But when combined with the other half it’s describing a very specific type of woman who her self is a massive red flag and a shitty person.
The sorta dude bro who dates these women are shitty people, but so are the women. It’s why they get together in the first place. Both people involved here are shitty people.
But here on lemmy pointing out a women can be a bad person is as taboo as pointing out a man is a bad person on reddit. Lemmy is just the other end of the extreme echo chamber.
But I’ve know a lot of women though my life that you could describe like this. They all in first meeting then would come across as rather self empowered and cool people.
When in reality they are just the non religious half of the Midwestern trailer trash.
Really it’s a huge red flag that the people in this thread seem to be a only able to see the “positive” traits here and claim the poster is a shit person and not the type of women he’s describing.
If your willing to be blind to the negative character traits then your just living a lie. The poster AND the women he’s describing are shit people.
He’s also likely a victim of baby entrapment. Considering the family court line here. It’s a rather real problem in a lot of poorer communities. Family court is wielded just as much as a weapon as it is a shield.
