If you bring a friend, they better be down for a 3 way if things go well. The only time this hapoened to me, was when two girls invited me to a 3way and then one of them chickened out, then got mad that I still fucked her friend. Like… That was the entire reason I was there!
This tracks.
She got mad because you fucked the wrong friend lol
She should have fucked him first then.
Everybody knows that in relationships it is first come first served.
I’d be up for a few dates where the girl brings her friends, as long as she makes it clear beforehand that they’re coming. But not a last minute “by the way, my friends are coming.”
I don’t mind meeting more new people.
I get it, I absolutely respect someone wanting to be safe, but i think it would also absolutely ruin the date for me. I just can’t really interact the same way in a group as I do one on one. Either that, or I’d end upv mirroring both of them simultaneously and it would end up in a throuple.
I respect it, but i don’t get it, and it would be a complete deal breaker for me. What do you think a person on a date in a public place is gonna do to you?
throuple
Threesome. Corrected for you.
I’m cool with someone deciding to do this.
I mean, I’ll decide not to go on the date, but that you do you.
Your lack of ability to judge my character leading up to the date, and the general sense of paranoia leading to a decision like this, aren’t qualities I’m looking for in a partner.
Neither is starting things from a place of outright suspicion. Like. I’m not judging. I just have zero interest.
Neither is starting things from a place of outright suspicion.
I would understand it if they are going to someplace private, like the apartment or a dark alley at midnight, but who the hell goes to those places on a first date? I’m not freaking out about a guy asking me to a coffee date at 1000 hours in the middle of a city on a saturday.
Amen
So much context missing to tell if the guy did good or not. He could be being a prick or just standing up for himself. In any case, this is definitely100% both fake but plus moreover besides also gay.
This is very common in Asia. The first few (not) dates they bring friends and you can too. Eventually, she gives an indication that she wants to do something alone with you and that’s when the real dates begin.
You make a good point, but considering that the conversation is in English I don’t think you’d be too far out of the pale to assume that this is not in Asia, and in most English-speaking countries it’s not common to go on group dates before going on individual dates.
It does happen, and quite a bit, but not to the point where it’s common, I would say it’s at the very most uncommon.
This is the way.
apeach
Doubling down on not paying for her food when there was no indication that he was expected to was definitely strange. It’s a perfectly fine thing to be uncomfortable with, don’t try and force the fault on her.
not paying for the random 3rd wheels food… yeah, triple down on it. make it VERY clear you aren’t paying for someone whom you aren’t wanting to actually meet or invited in the first place.
If you think this is weird you probably shouldn’t date. You’re gonna see their friends at some point and it might as well be before you give too many fucks.
I’d agree easily. I’d even pay. Especially if her friend is single too. Doubles the odds and probably more fun conversation.
As a guy, you’d be a total idiot to agree. Single guy on a date with two girls is definitely going to make a fool out of himself and have a terrible evening. Call me sexist, blame social whatnotever for it but it’s as sure as the night is dark. These two have known each other and longer than you so you’re the outsider and there’s that unspoken, inevirtable rivality between you and her best friend. No fucking change. BTW, I’d wonder what people might say if gender roles were reversed here. Lol… “I gotta bring my buddy. For safety.”
Fuck all that. If you’re too afraid to meet a strange man in a public place, that’s on you, and god only knows what other unreasonable fears you have.
Tell me you have no concept of the day to day experience of women without telling me you have no concept of the day to day experience of women, speed run edition
Women are not fragile helpless creatures.
Going to a public place on a date is not something that you need to bring the whole crew for.
The way that he, (I’m assuming he), stated his response is inflammatory, but I agree with the concept behind it.
I cannot envision a path towards a healthy relationship that starts off with that much distrust, and if that were presented to me, I would assume that the two girls have conspired together to get free meals out of a simp rather than to actually start a relationship.
So that would be why it’s a no-go for me.
You’re right. They’re not fragile and helpless.
You know how women protect themselves? How they demonstrate their strength and ability to help themselves?
By bringing other people when meeting strangers who are statistically likely to be larger and stronger than they are, and 60% more likely to commit a violent crime!
If you can’t figure out the difference between “I distrust unknown men” and “I distrust you” then you have a hell of a lot to learn, dude :/
This is how you get lied to. This is how you wind up shocked when they reveal later that they had a friend nearby. Because they can’t even trust you not to judge them for prioritizing their own safety.
You are the problem.
Hopefully that lady has enough self respect to tell that boy to go fuck himself.
They were trying to get free meals out of the guy. Fuck them, actually. Bums.
Gendernormative assumption of gender?
SatansMaggotyCumFart i have seen you before and i do expect better from you.
I don’t think “safety friends” are typical in lesbian circles, because of the implication
i was literally just thinking of this. Well played
Satansmaggotycumfart is correct…hopefully she sees that response as the red flag that it is.
Not paying for a freeloader is a red flag now?
Saying so once would have been fine. If he’s OK with the Safety Friend and she wanted to pay her own way then there’s no conflict.
But saying so twice? That’s some insecurity right there, and it would have me reconsidering even if I was desperate both for a free meal and to get laid.
They did nothing though?
They told the lady who they were with that last message now it’s up to her to listen.
