I don’t give a damn if the hooker orgasms or not. I just want to bust a nut and dance with the hooker dressed up to look like my mom.
Or you could teach him. Better for both of you.
Not everyone has the patience for that
Oh and that is fine but then you have to ask yourself if you want to have a partnership with bad sex. If not, break up, or “teach” by communicating what you want, what is good and what is bad. There is no alternative, accept bad sex, break up, teach.
(Technically, you could let them have sex outside of the partnership to study, but… Well, not my cup of tea)
If you aren’t willing to learn and grow with your partner you should stick to masturbating
Skill issue
I always think of Kramer saying he faked orgasms, LOL. 🤣
Yeah, please. Why be deceptive? It serves no one.
Better yet, take responsibility for your own pleasure. Play an active role in getting what you want out of the act. Communicate. Why wouldn’t you?
I’ve heard from a lot of women that a portion of men take any attempt to provide suggestions as a direct attack on their masculinity
Not just men, I’m a lesbian and I’ve experienced this with women too. Some people are really sensitive to constructive criticism especially during intimacy.
Well that’s just two reasons not to date them since those guys all probably listen to Tate.
Sometimes you just want the fucking to end but he won’t give up.
Have you heard about that wild thing you can do called “communication”
“It’s ok babe, I’m good, my thighs are sore.”
“No, I’m gonna get you off tonight!”Sometimes the kind thing to do is just fake it. It doesn’t mean the sex was bad, it doesn’t mean I wasn’t satisfied. But getting to the Big O is often times just too much trouble.
If the follow up to you saying you’re done is them demanding to keep going, that is coercive and fucked up. I wouldn’t suggest lying in response unless you never plan to see them again, though, or if you feel safe and plan to address it later. It’s just as fucked up to keep up with the lie afterwards as it is to be coercive, imo. Both play coercive, indirect ways of refusing respect, and the tit-for-tat dynamic risks setting up a breeding grounds of resentment for at least the person maintaining a lie. It also denies the coercive person the opportunity for growth.
Tell him it’s not going to happen. It’s okay if it doesn’t. The important part is he tried.
I keep a box of “You Tried!” stickers in my nightstand for this very reason
Squeezing balls make wonders or so I heard.
As someone without balls, can you explain?
The balls often get neglected. Give them a little gentle attention too. Basically, do the kind of things that would feel good if done to your breasts (cupping them, light scratches and tickles, a gentile squeeze, a medium tug, ect.). Combined with a halfway decent stroking or sucking, it’ll take care of most guys in pretty short order. Any other questions you don’t want to ask someone who you’ll have to see again? Happy to educate. I’m a male nurse if that somehow makes it less weird.
FACT!
I dumped a woman when she told me she faked her orgasms. Good sex requires honesty, trust, and communication. It’s impossible to get better when either person is being dishonest.
Good, fuck her. Or not fuck her in this case. I’ve dated two or three guys that had honesty issues, and the relationship crumbled very quickly after I figured it out. Without trust there’s no respect, no cooperation, no kindness.
> Lies there like a dead fish
> Barely participates
> Expects pleasure beyond wildest dreams
> “Why are men so bad at sex?”Mom?
WAIT
Dad?
Dr Scott?
Janet?
Brad‽‽
Rocky!
Mr. Krabs
Bing Hi there!
Hey girrrrl?!
☝️ Not a girl.
Have you tried giving instructions? My experience is everyone is different and some people need to be told what to do. Is that a fit for you? Maybe not then move on.
“move your arse… faster… faster… Now put your hand on your tits…”
This but unironically.
Any female lucky enough to end up in bed passed out from pleasure, so can’t say I’ve ever had this problem.
(for the daft: obviously I’m not being serious)
Can you rewrite what you said but this time use English?
You’re an average USAmerican, aren’t you?
Pretty sure calling women “females” is given the side eye in every English dialect.
It is called USian. Often, but not always, goes with a red hat and multiple flags.
No, no, no. All things on the internet are 100% true.
She’s referring to the orgasm
I feel badly for the lots of men that believe their life is to please women.
this group includes me
While 100% in the don’t fake it camp, please also remember us men are not mind readers and our equipment works different. Much like with cooking and cleaning, if you don’t tell us what we are doing wrong or better yet show us the right way, we are going to assume we did our part cause we got the result we wanted and you didn’t complain or ask for something different.
Also a woman’s ability to cum varies HIGHLY from person to person.
I’ve noticed a pretty direct correlation with a woman’s habit of masturbating and her ability to orgasm during sex. The chick I was seeing just before I went back to college, I’d believe it if you told me that I’ve played with her clit more than she ever has TO THIS DAY, and guess what? She never once gave me any suggestion on what she wanted me to do, I’m sure because she genuinely didn’t know.
Funnily enough, this is the case for men too. Hence all the “this has never happened to me before” memes on TV shows in the 90s and 00s.
I’d say day to day as well, depending on many factors (stress, energy level, hormones, etc.)
Just communicate and see what’s working or not, or if anything works at all. It will make the sex better for everyone involved.
Funnily enough, your wife said the same thing.
What I happened to notice with different girls as a guy is that for many, of not most, telling/showing the right way is a turn-off and having something the right way without showing first is a source of tremendous excitement.
With that said, we, men, are still not mind readers, and women really do have it very differently, so some common sex education, while useful, can only cover the basics, and even they are not universally applicable.
I dunno man, most women in my experience have all really appreciated (and as much said out loud) that there was communication. Sure, if it happens without any prompting or guidance, it’s mind blowing because it feels like there’s something naturally special going on, but that’s a pretty rare thing. Sexual compatibility can be tweaked and guided, for sure, but then again there are also people who just don’t have it together.
There are also just toxic people that want perfection with zero work. But that’s not how shit works, even if they can be a vocal group
telling/showing the right way is a turn-off
I don’t think OP is talking about a PowerPoint presentation (unless that’s your kink, you do you), but more like some verbal cues “faster” “don’t stop” “a little lower” etc. If the guy has a reasonable amount of attentiveness and experience, he should be able to get her 80% of the way there. Also, little cues like that can be hot as well because we know she’s into it and stuff.
Fake orgasm is very counter-productive, even when it’s used as a feeling preservibg way of saying “I’m tired and bored, let’s just finish you off and go back to watching tv”
Yes! Also, tell your male friends to communicate and actively ask what feels good!
Edit: Also
Yes! This does wonders!
Ya you just suck at communicating. It’s probably why most of your relationships fail.
More like
Fake orgasms and just pee on him to secretly assert dominance
Please don’t pee on your partner without consent.
No sex without the presence of our notary dear.
"Honey, come back to bed’
“One sec dear, I have to scan your consent form”
Dominance? I’d be ready for three more rounds immediately.
I JUST HAD SEX
I kissed a girl and I liked it, but as I’m a heterosexual man, that’s not especially transgressive.
Let’s be honest, two girls kissing, I have never seen anyone have an issue with that as long as they also kissed boys. Also kiss is a euphenism here. Yes lesbians were seen as wgtow and somewhat persecuted but bi-curious hetero girls? Absolutely never seen that even hinted at. In fact a lot of pop culture put that on a pedestal. Because it’s hot.
It was a reference to a crappy Katie Perry song. But I repeat myself.
Unavailability to men, real or perceived without monastic levels of chastity is often where the persecution comes in. It tends to be directed towards lesbians, but bi women often face it once they are seen as not partaking in men’s fetishization of them
Are bi women not seen as available? I mean, are they bi sexual if they don’t consider men as potential partners? It seems to me if they don’t, then they’re lesbians and yes I agree this is more stigmatized by the diseased culture.
Well my friend’s wife is still very much bisexual despite being monogamously married to a woman.
Another friend’s fiancée decided to stop pursuing men before she met her wife to be, but she remains attracted to men.
My two friends in these situations are, like me, lesbians and just not attracted to men, as opposed to choosing not to pursue them for other reasons
AND IT FELT SO GOOD
(felt so good)
A WOMAN LET ME PUT. MY. PENIS. INSIIIIIIIDE OF HER
Nice, and your partner(s)?
To shreds, you say?
They just had sex, too.
WITH ANOTHER PERSON
How is your mum feeling about it?
I don’t really talk to my mother, she’s an alcoholic.
Imagine not being able to make a woman organism.
It’s like a Dark Souls SL 1 run for incel chuds irl.
Tbf most men don’t have that much input in the process of making woman organisms. They’re just expected to buy pickles and ice cream from time to time.
